Sex is God’s gift to his creatures. He endorses sex but restricts its expression to those committed to each other in marriage.
God wants sex to be motivated by love and commitment, not lust. It is for mutual pleasure, not selfish enjoyment.
As the relationship developed, the beauty and wonder of a romance unfolded between Solomon and his bride. The intense power of love affected the hearts, minds, and bodies of the two lovers.
Because love is such a powerful expression of feeling and commitment between two people, it is not to be regarded casually. We are not to manipulate others into loving us, and love should not be prematurely encouraged in a relationship.
The power of love requires more than the language of feeling to protect it. Sexual expression is such an integral part of our selfhood that we need the boundary of marriage to safeguard our love. Marriage is the celebration of daily commitment to each other.
While romance keeps a marriage interesting, commitment keeps romance from dwindling away. The decision to commit yourself to your spouse alone begins at the marriage altar. It must be maintained day by day.
The two lovers praise the beauty they see in each other. The language they use shows the spontaneity and mystery of love. Praise should not be limited to physical beauty; beautiful personality and moral purity should also be praised.
Our love for someone makes him or her appear beautiful to us. As you consider marriage, don’t just look for physical attractiveness in a person. Look for the inner qualities that don’t fade with time—spiritual commitment, integrity, sensitivity, and sincerity.
Over time, feelings of loneliness, indifference, and isolation came between Solomon and his bride. During those times, love grew cold, and barriers were raised.
Through careful communication, lovers can be reconciled, commitment can be renewed, and romance refreshed. Don’t let walls come between you and your partner. Take care of problems while they are still small.